Dealing with alienation and estrangement is a daily challenge: how to cope with the pain, how to live a normal life again, how to find any peace. Well-meaning friends may suggest that you get involved in activities, keep busy, structure your time, get out more. These are all good suggestions and there is a time for social activity and involvement.
There is also a time for solitude.
There were days I spent alone when I felt like I was submerged in a moonless river, stripped naked – just me and the teeming darkness of my soul. However, even though I was lost, I felt that somehow I was being carried toward a mysterious truth.
We live in a society that is caught up in quick fixes, shallow experiences and encounters. We want immediate gratification and we are impatient with any kind of ongoing grieving or sadness. But, when our hearts have been broken it is difficult to jump back into the flow of life because, for a time, we need the protective, womblike comfort of drawn curtains and soft shadows.
It is an act of courage and faith to embrace solitude. By doing so, you access a part of your mind, your heart and your soul that has been whispering to you, trying to get your attention.
Be still and listen. Dive into the mystery and discover the fertile creativity of solitude. Walk through your suffering to a place of peace.
Whosoever is delighted in solitude is either a wild beast or a god. ~ Aristotle